Monday, November 8, 2010

Dear Facebook

Dear Facebook,

I'm leaving you.  Umm... I think I need a little space.  It's not you, it's me.  Ok, it's you and the fact that I don't really need to know the minutiae (I had to look up the spelling of that word, every possibility looked weird) of everyone else's day, even though it is oddly compelling.

It's also me, I believe I have some sort of undiagnosed social anxiety, and for some reason, reading you makes me agitated.  I also find that people say things they might filter a bit more in person.  I've found in the past few weeks that people's (often angry) opinions are getting under my skin.  Plus I have spent too much time with you.  No offense.

So... it's better this way.  I haven't posted in about a week, and I'm feeling more relaxed already.  I haven't even really been wondering what's going on in your world, nor have I been dying to post my kids' new Christmas portraits for the world to see, because, really, I think I'm just over you.

Maybe if I ever have a book to publicize, we'll talk.  I'm not burning bridges, Facebook.  Let's just go our separate ways and maybe I'll even have more time to write said book. :)  Good luck with that dinner you are cooking, movie you hated, and cryptic message that makes everyone ask what's going on.

Not yours anymore,
Lindsey

14 comments:

Falen (Sarah Ahiers) said...

i look at FB probably only a few times a week. To be fair, my sister reads it daily, to watch for events we're invited to and stuff like that, but otherwise, meh.

Ghenet said...

I did the same thing recently! I got tired of caring what everyone else was doing so I just stopped signing in. It's freeing, huh?

Alleged Author said...

I agree that sometimes people ignore their internal filters and write horrid things! I have taken to checking mine only 3-4 times a week. That way I don't freak out!

Wendy Ramer said...

I hear you, Lindsey, but I still love Facebook for all the long lost friendships it has brought back into my life...and there are many...which I cherish today. So I'm like the girlfriend who feels indebted to FB and will probably never completely cut the ties that bind :-)

Slamdunk said...

Ha, good for you. I only use it to reconnect with old friends, and understand how it can quickly become a time-eater.

Carrie said...

Way to go. I've unplugged before and it was really freeing. When I have friends who post angry/annoying status updates I just hide them.

Stephanie Thornton said...

I never got into Facebook, but I feel the same way about Twitter. I just don't need to know what everyone is doing every second of every day. I have a hard enough time keeping up with my own life as it is!

SAMUEL PARK said...

Are you really quitting Facebook? Wow! Good for you. I don't think I have the willpower! But this was really funny. Great post. And I agree with you, hearing someone's intense opinions can get a bit draining...

Kristin Rae said...

I hear you sister friend. For the most part, my FB friends (I try to keep it to people I actually know personally) are normal... but there are always a few people who write stuff they really shouldn't and I also found myself getting worked up over the ignorance some people display. So I hid a few people from my news feed (And those blasted farmville and poker games), and now everything is peachy! :) I still try not to look at it obsessively though... I realized I just like to use it as a distraction, so some days, it's best if I just don't sign in at all.

Olivia J. Herrell said...

I have a love/hate relationship with FB. Sometimes I take it. Sometimes I leave it. Cudos to you for unplugging.

Speaking of unplugging, Terry Stonecrop @ Gardner West, PI, talked about this today, citing some research on what being plugged in is doing to our brains. Check her out!

Great post, that rebel, Olivia

Dangerous With a Pen said...

Yes, I have really unplugged and I am loving it! I don't even miss it. Every now and then I think about posting but it's like "Haircut! Yay!" and then I think, who cares that I got my hair cut? And I laugh at myself. Cause, really... it seems very self-important and I was posting as much dumb stuff as anyone else, so please don't think I am acting all high & mighty, I did it too. :)

Have not ever even tried Twitter. Don't think I will anytime in the near future. Of course, if I ever have a book to shout about, I'm sure I'll need those things to help build interest, but for now when I have no book in sight.. I'm good. ;)

Thanks for the idea, Olivia! Will have to look for her!

Jemi Fraser said...

I haven't joined Facebook yet. I don't have any extra time at all - so I'm trying to avoid it.

Shayda Bakhshi said...

I used to check FB constantly. I've gotten better, though. A week away from it and I realized I didn't need it to breathe.

Good for you! :)

Tiffany Neal said...

Oh yeah, FB can be an evil, horrible, no good, dirty...thing. Yeah, thing!

I've had a student's parent post something about their child's horrible teacher (AKA me) and found out through the grapevine.

Lovely.

I'm with you on the it's not you, it's me...